“How do I make my relationships feel more aligned with my politics—without losing myself in the process?”

3 FREE resources to start your Erotics of Liberation journey

Most people think queerness is just about who you’re attracted to.

I believe that queerness is a political choice. A refusal. A reimagining. A commitment to loving beyond what the world told us was possible.

Queer people are also leading and central to liberation movements but are often unsupported in the most intimate parts of their lives.

We’re expected to heal, love, organize, and care—all at once—without deep relational scaffolding. How many of us have example of queer relationships that are liberatory driven? Queer elders?

Yes, this tension births relational genius.

But in practice, I find that it also makes relationships harder, lonelier, and often more precarious. We’re asked to survive, organize, and liberate without the deep, sustainable support systems we deserve.

And if you’re here, there’s a good chance:

• You’re burning out from organizing work, care work and just racial capitalism at large.

• You’re struggling in your relationships.

Not because something’s wrong with you—but because most queer folks have never had access to the scaffolding we need to love well.

We’re expected to build futures of freedom without maps for how to disagree, repair, or stay when it gets hard.

To organize, raise each other’s kids, and hold collective grief without being held ourselves.

To create new worlds—while surviving this one.

And our organizing spaces? They’re often riddled with unspoken tension, ghosted group chats, and unresolved conflict.

The goal is to change everything.

To build the strongest movements, somatically too!

Create relationships that are profound, transformative, and liberatory, reflecting the very essence of the systemic change we strive for,

Sustain the care work that keeps us alive,

Avoid the burnout that takes so many of us out,

And practice approaching conflict as a spiritual practice—one that brings us closer instead of tearing us apart.

I want that to change because the sustainability of our movements depends entirely on the wellness of our intimate relationships. When we can cultivate strong, embodied connections—whether with our partners, our comrades, or ourselves—we create a foundation that is both resilient and transformative. The health of these relationships, the ability to navigate conflict, care for each other, and embody our shared values, is the bedrock upon which our movements can thrive. Without this, we risk burnout, isolation, and the erosion of our collective power.

Over the last few years, I’ve encountered so many organizing spaces brimming with depth, potential, and so much more, yet they’re stuck in a cycle of unresolved conflict. That scares me. While the far right is well organized, we, on the left, are too often caught up policing each other, avoiding accountability, or letting unresolved tensions fester. This not only weakens our movements, but it also saps the energy and focus needed to create the transformative change we so desperately seek. If we can’t address our internal conflicts, we’ll continue to allow them to undermine our ability to create lasting liberation.

Every week (and more), you’ll receive tools, reflections, and stories that will help you ask better questions on how to:

• Heal from inherited relational wounds

• Build sustainable, liberatory relationships that mirror the world we want to build

• Practice accountability as love and conflict as care

• Expand your relational capacity, broaden your organizing reach

• Connect intimacy to organizing

• Anchor into community when everything feels like it’s falling apart (don’t fall into despair, fall into community!)

I’m not necessarily interested in answers—at least not neat, packaged ones. I’m more interested in asking better, deeper, more generative questions. Because so much of the world is ambiguous, unresolved, in motion. And so am I.

And if you’re a Founding Member, you’ll also receive quarterly digital products like digital products like zines, workbooks and worksheets to go deeper into somatic tools, rituals, and frameworks to support your practice.

So, if you’ve ever asked yourself,

“How do I make my relationships feel more aligned with my politics—without losing myself in the process?”

“How do I build relationships that mirror the values I carry in my body about the world?”

Then…

Here are 3 ways to start reimagining your relationships today:

• The Conflict Archetype Quiz (click here)

How do you respond in conflict? What role or shape do you take? How can you shift your approach to align more deeply with your liberatory values when engaging with the people you love and care about most?

This fun quiz will help you uncover the way you’ve been showing up in conflict, allowing you to work with your natural shape and explore how to embody more liberatory practices in your interactions. By reflecting on your responses, you’ll gain insights into how to move toward more transformative, healing approaches that foster deeper connections and align with your values of justice, care, and collective liberation. Ready to dive in? Let's begin!

• Click here to access your free gift: The Liberation Connection Circle, a reflective and somatic tool to deepen Relationships & Strengthen Organizing Through Radically Honest, Vulnerable, Compassionate Conversations

How many of us have seen organizing spaces birthed after October 2023, only to see them struggle or even collapse due to conflict?

Our spaces, whether we’re organizing for liberation, community care, or transformative justice, depend on our capacity to face conflict and engage in repair. How we show up in moments of tension, disagreement, or hurt will determine whether our collective work thrives or dissolves.

Simply put, our liberation depends on our ability to be accountable, navigate conflict in transformative ways, and engage in repair.

This circle is designed for organizers, friends, lovers and overall 1312 cuties who want to deepen their relationships and build resilient, liberatory spaces and relationships through honest sharing and intentional reflection.

• **Click here for my 5-day email series “Abolition Lives in the Intimate”: daily** explorations on how our abolitionist values don’t just live in the streets or the policy realm—they also reside in the intimate spaces of our relationships, reflection questions to help you practice abolition in an embodied way + practice that link the personal to the political

And if you want to go deeper…

• Click here to read the archive:

Stories, frameworks, and personal reflections on the friction and brilliance of queer relationality, the somatics of abolition and what it means to organize for the end of those systems centering radical belonging and love (starting with you!).

I’m so glad you’re here.

Because if you’ve ever felt lonely in your relationships,

Burnt out from being the “strong one,”

Or unsure how to build intimacy that doesn’t replicate the systems we’re trying to escape—

You’re not alone.

You’re exactly where you need to be.

That’s literally why I write. The world needs our relational brilliance—but we need support to sustain it.

My work on this corner of the internet is to bridge the gap between the personal and the political by asserting: abolition lives in how we love, disagree, repair, and grow together. Those conversations aren’t just self-development—they’re political warfare against a state that thrives on us being disconnected, numb, and isolated. I’ll never say it enough:

abolition is relational practice.

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You’ll get access to exclusive essays, zines for free and you’ll be the first to know about future courses.

Let’s build the world we’re dreaming of, babe <3