Can I tell you something?
I used to be an overgiver. I still am. Working on it.
I know overgiving is a control issue. Through somatic therapy, I’ve been able to trace it back to a fear of receiving. And also to the discomfort of being seen in my need, of letting something come toward me without immediately earning it, shaping it, or reciprocating it. Giving lets me stay in motion, in agency, in the role of the one who knows, who anticipates, who provides. Receiving asks something else of me—it asks me to soften, to stay, to risk being touched in places that don’t feel as organized or as in control. And also…
