Children are the most shaped by the political.
Our way of loving and being loved is shaped by what we received as children,
marked by the social and contextual environment.
No kids should be harmed by poverty, racism, sexism, transphobia, ableism, classism, ecological collapse… but they are. You have been. And we turn into adults that have impact on children around us (whether or not we have birthed them).
As a Black femme working in so-called “healing spaces,” I’ve always been struck not just by their dishonesty but even more by the hypocrisy they revel in when it comes to what “healing” truly means.
My work is not self-care (that centers the individual and demands we separate from the group). It is not even self-development. It is deeply political. And spiritual.
If we want to stop thinking in binaries, we have to re-member that everything is connected. That we don’t have to “bring the political and the spiritual together”.
We just have to move into the spaces that have never denied their continuous embrace.
We have to practice placing ourselves into those spaces long enough that the false stories of duality we’ve been indoctrinated with no longer bind us to repeat the same old plots and that the mere thought of them make us laugh.
how stupid this binary is!
That means: yes ! Pleasure is political. The Spiritual is Political. And, also: our politics should be rooted in pleasure and spirituality.
In the pleasure of what it means to truly feel that everything is relationship.
Symbiotic relationality, collective liberation, radical belonging & liberation-driven world building: that is pleasure. That’s sublime to my body. I feel it everywhere.
Seeking & embodying this truth is part of a broad movement that challenges domination - that seeks to connect with the root, the heart, the source of Life by changing our present relationships (to ourselves, others, the Land & Spirit).
The space of pleasure is half-forgotten and half-mocked because of our shaping & what people call “femmephobia” which to me is symbiotic relationality, birth (& its companion death), reciprocity.
Pleasure is not just delightful and enjoyable.
Receiving, under systems of domination, feels widely unsafe and unsettling for our nervous systems. We are shaped to not know how to receive pleasure. That is why we become avoidant, too.
We can not name something that we don’t know.
We can not change something we don’t think is wrong because we have never experienced alternatives.
In other words:
THE BODY LEARNS ON YES - I was first taught this embodied truth by Staci Haines.
Discomfort isn’t just about the "bad things"—like confronting our patterns of domination or unlearning privilege. It’s also about the positive experiences, the ones that challenge us in ways that expand our nervous system, allowing our tissues to soften.
But within pleasure lies a power that runs counter to the principle of domination upon which our society is based.
Therefore, reclaiming the power of pleasure, its inherent sovereignty and the resistance on which it is formed is part of our collective liberation.
The goal of my workshop is for you to receive. Receive what has hurt, in the secret of your body, stop avoiding it, so we can start heal together, collectively.
Because what you feel is probably what i feel. And its way easier to control individuals than controlling communities of people. When we gather to look at what hurts, we become strong. We realise those are not personal failures we should look at with a practitioner or a therapist alone. This shit is political.
Our inner kids are.
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"We just have to move into the spaces that have never denied their continuous embrace." this line in reference to the interconnectedness of the spiritual and the political and all aspects of life!!! this line is everything